Problem: To talk, to resolve arguments, to work out a situation, a person needs to remain available for communication. Therefore to have a functional relationship with family, you cannot abandon your family, you cannot desert them. There is also the problem of enabling that happens, when you refuse to abandon a person.
Solution: When a person is being mean to you, when they want you to abandon them, to leave them, sometimes just best to be quiet and listen, and stay close. Prove with our body language you are not going to leave.
If you family members are abusive, and refuse to talk, to resolve issues, then know that abandoning them, or pulling away from the table long enough to prove to them you could leave permanently can get them to stop abusing and start trying. This is separation in divorce, but truly you need 100 percent separation to prove 100 percent you can leave.
Abandonment is from French abandonment, from abandonner (“to abandon, relinquish”); abandonner was originally equivalent to mettre à bandon (“to leave to the jurisdiction, i.e. of another”), bandon being from Medieval Latin bandum, bannum (“order, decree, ban”)
1.The act of abandoning, or the state of being abandoned; total desertion; relinquishment.
2.(maritime law) The relinquishment by the insured to the underwriters of what may remain of the property insured after a loss or damage by a peril insured against.
3.(common law) The relinquishment of a right, claim or privilege, as to mill site, etc.
4.(common law) The voluntary leaving of a person to whom one is bound by a special relation, as a wife, husband or child; desertion. "Since he left her, she's suing him for divorce on grounds of abandonment."
5.The cessation of service on a particular segment of the lines of a common carrier by railroad. 6.A refusal to receive freight so damaged in transit as to be worthless and render carrier liable for its value.
7.(rare) Careless freedom or ease; abandon.
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